Most of us have stopped watching the news because we don’t want to hear more bad about the economy. We’d like to tune it out. It’s sort of like the environment or global warming – at a certain point it starts getting so overwhelming and big that we want to shut it out. I’m not disputing that as a tactic – not doing anything because we’re so damn depressed – isn’t going to help anything either.
This week I went to a Tweetup and partied like there was no recession. We had so much fun. There was so much food – dishes and dished piled and barely touched. We couldn’t eat it all if we’d wanted to. It’s one of the only times the waiter didn’t ask if we wanted desert. But the feel of excess is one that I can’t be at ease with right now.
I’ve noticed that for every trend, there is reality for you. Everyone is getting a divorce but you have a strong marriage. But you worry about it anyway because you hope your turn won’t come. All the wives complain about their husband’s being sloppy and not doing housework. But my husband has to tell me again why the carpet needs to be vacuumed more than once a week. If it were me it’d be once a quarter. We only have 3 people in our big house. I can’t relate to that.
And then there’s my friend who convinved me I’m going to lose my job and I started to worry he was right. Sometimes you see all the signs they tell you to watch out for and yet your situation doesn’t apply. But where I work, we’re still hiring. We’ve always been lean and I like it that way. I’ve been in companies twice where stupid overspending led to layoffs. Banking on a that one ridiculous game that didn’t sell or letting the developers go to a conference before the product was finished. But I do have a job now when it sounds like no one else in the world does.
Of course the recession is the ultimate excuse for just about any failing. There are benefits to the recession though, and I’m enjoying them, including…
- I think harder about what I buy. I recently bought new clothes. I took time finding just the right look for my personality and buying things that go together. I spent full price on half and got a huge discount on the other half. I am happier with them than when I bought too many clothes that were just ok.
- We spend more time together as a family doing simple things. I wish I could say we eat less but that’s not a current benefit. We do eat out less. We have family movie nights for the cost of a Red Box and some microwave popcorn and the memories are great.
- Waitresses don’t blow us off when I order water or want to share with my husband. I’m trying to be healthy and save money. Before the recession that was a recipe for cold shoulder.
- There’s a sense of pulling together because we’re all in this together. I sense that at work and home. I try to find solutions with my husband as his production goes up and our income drops. It’s a lot easier to cut back on your lifestyle when your neighbors are doing the same. We’re openly clipping coupons!
- We don’t have to spend money to stay busy. I actually miss living in neighborhoods where kids play together for hours. My friend’s son has friends over before school. Some kids are signed up for so much that they can barely fit in time to just hang out. I spent most of my childhood hanging out every single day with my cousins and friends. I never thought it was too much and I should be doing something more productive. Now there’s a good excuse for not signing my son up for every type of lesson, club, or athletics and the cost of time and money that goes along with it.
- I feel good about giving things away I don’t need to a charity. It helps keep clutter down, gives me a tax deduction, and benefits someone else.
- I can get in for appointments faster – like getting a hair cut, a pedicure, or a massage. Business has slowed and that means less wait time. Since I’m a little impulsive this suits me. Not that I don’t want business to be strong, but looking at the bright side…
- We remember that the stock market can drop and isn’t a sure bet. We are saving more because we don’t know what will be there for retirement or in the next few years even. It’s one thing to be told this but another to live it. Mutual funds and insurance are more appealing than ever.
I’ve never experienced anything like this economy and it’s unsettling. However, the doom and gloom doesn’t help. So rather than being scared I do what I can and forget the rest. Excercise, spirituality and meditation helps me sleep better at night. How I’m coping — I remember that what’s happening to many people isn’t necessarily what is happening to me. Then I focus on the benefits.